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GETTING CLOSER IS REVISITING WHAT YOU’VE ALWAYS BELIEVED TO BE TRUE.
For me, the key was revisiting the idea that I never had a choice, that the whole thing was someone else’s fault. That the identity I was holding up only existed as the expectations I assumed everyone had about who and what I was. I discovered false aspects of the stories that I had created around the situations that make up the story I call 1st Marriage. From this perspective, what I saw in 20 year old Deanne changed dramatically. Instead of seeing a victim of her circumstances, I saw an innocent human trying the best she could to find safety in being acceptable and doing acceptable things. It was obvious that the choices I made to accomplish my goal of safety did not, in fact, provide safety and for that reason, my 1st Marriage story deserved my attention and reconsideration.
Getting closer can start anywhere
My marriage is falling apart
I have to make this decision
I don't know what to do
I can't stay at this job
The first step to responding to this invitation is to identify a challenge, problem or area of dissatisfaction in your world in this moment. This can be a person that’s driving you crazy, a relationship that isn’t meeting your needs, a friend or group that doesn’t include you, a situation where you feel misunderstood, an institution that should do things differently, a stressful family
dynamic, my child’s behavior, my boss not seeing my value, my mother’s judgements of me, my sibling’s addiction, my partner’s lack of commitment, virtually any issue that is causing pain, discomfort, stress, confusion or suffering. The invitation is to
hold that problem in your mind’s eye and get curious.