Clarity
Part 8
CLARITY CAN COME IN MANY WAYS. FOR ME IT CAME THROUGH THE WORK OF BYRON KATIE - A FRAMEWORK FOR QUESTIONING AND REVISITING THE REALITY OF AN EXPERIENCE.
When I began doing The Work, I found that when I tried to focus on moments of distress during my 1st marriage, I had trouble holding the emotion and the reason for that emotion. When working solely within my mind there were too many other parts of the story that distracted me – shifting and changing what I was trying to clarify. Writing it down held it steady and made it real enough to stand on its own and allowed my mind to still. I was able to question was I was thinking and believing in that moment so many years ago and find clarity. And with clarity came peace, closely followed by freedom, and then empowerment.
We’re clarifying what you’re believing in a certain situation that causes your suffering. In doing this we put you in the drivers seat of your experience. You gain a higher level perspective of your experience of life. For instance, let's say I’m upset that my kid failed math. There are a million reasons why that F might be on his report card. These 4 questions and 3 turnarounds (The Work of Byron Katie) allow you to understand which of the million reasons you have to be upset about You could upset because of what you believe that means about you as a parent, what you’re going to tell your friends, a thousand different reasons. Through this process you will gain a level of clarity to what is going on within you. You’ll be able to move forward in a way that holds understanding and aligns with your highest truth.
1. Is it true?
We’re so used to thinking we’re right.
This is just an opportunity to question what we’re thinking.
Circumstances lead to thoughts, which lead to emotion, which lead to behavior. Your choice is whether or not you want your decision to come from a place of confusion, stress and suffering...or the opposite so that when you do take action it comes from your kindest, most loving place. The whole process itself is healing to you and an act of self love.
4 Questions
